Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Wattle

Wattle -Old English: a fabrication of poles interwoven with small branches or reeds. Used in gardens for wind protection, screen, or to provide support for young vines.

Of course, in just reading the definition of this term, it comes to mind that the parents and family of a child should provide such a place for youngsters. I am not naive enough to know that this is not always the case, but generally speaking, the family should be the place of support and protection for a child.

Young vines are tender and can be trained to grow along a certain path. I like to think the same is true about young kids as well. They can be trained to follow a certain path. I think training is the key. Teaching, leading, love and support will provide a wattle for a child throughout his life. Each step he takes may not be the one his parents would take or even like for him to take, but it will be more likely that he will follow a certain lifestyle or path if he has been trained to do so.

Protection and support are important keys to a child's development. I like to refer to the Biblical passage "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it." (Proverbs 22:6) The support s/he gains from his/her family will provide a screen or protection from the winds that the storms of life will surely bring.
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Friday, July 04, 2008

grafting

Grafting-The uniting of a short length of stem of one plant onto the root stock of a different plant. This is often done to produce a hardier or more disease resistant plant.

As parents, we know that it is important to give our kids good role models to follow. We know that young kids instinctively look up to older kids. It is vital that we place our kids in the vicinity of those kinds of older kids that will present a good role model.

My son just spent five days as a junior counselor at a camp for 3rd-6th graders. It is his first year to do so, though he has cousins and neighbors that look up to him on a daily basis. My son realized just how much the younger kids look up to the bigger kids. He learned how they are watching and imitating all the time. He learned that he had to be on his best at all times and live the things that he said.

In a sense, this is like grafting a plant. Taking a short piece of plant is like taking the younger child and uniting him/her with an older, more rooted child. In giving our kids healthy role models, we will see a hardier plant upon maturity, one more likely to grow resistant those things that will cause hurt and heartache in their lives. It is also important for us to remind our bigger kids (and provide opportunities for them to experience) that those littler ones are watching and that they need to provide some strength for those younger ones to grasp on to.
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Thursday, June 12, 2008

tender plants

Tender Plants-Plants which are unable to endure frost or freezing temperatures.


In raising kids, it is easy to want to protect them from any harm that may come their way. But sometimes we do ourselves and our fellow man a disservice if we carry this too far. It seems that many of today's young adults are what could be considered as "tender plants". As they enter the workforce it is a difficult transition for them and their expectations seem to be centered on how they think things should be done. I recently saw a video that somewhat underscores these ideas. I thought it appropriate to share it here.


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Thursday, June 05, 2008

photosynthesis

Photosynthesis-The internal process by which a plant turns sunlight into growing energy. The formation of carbohydrates in plants from water and carbon dioxide, by the action of sunlight on the Chlorophyll within the leaves.

It seems that kids go through stages of internal thought processes that can be likened to photosynthesis of a plant. In my house, it has come to seem that perhaps teens are especially adept at mulling things over for a while before actually using the things they have been thinking about as energy for growth. It is so good to see a child of any age take to heart things that mom and dad have been telling them, sometimes for years.

We parents may at times feel as if we are talking to the wind or a brick wall, but when we see these things take effect in our children's lives and the growth and maturity that begin show in the way they conduct themselves, we can know that our effort was not wasted. It may take time for a kid to think through things they are hearing and learning. But after a while of "percolating" the thoughts and ideas, these often become the catalyst for growth in their lives. As parents, we will hopefully continue to "shed some light" in our children's hearts and minds, while allowing them the time and space to internally process these things. Our hope is that the reward will be the strong and healthy growth of our children into fruitful adult lives.
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Wednesday, May 21, 2008

exaggerated topiary sculpture

In writing about shaping our children much like a gardener designing a topiary sculpture, I was reminded of a blog article sent to me via email. I do not have the original blogger name or url to give proper credit to. I would like to take a moment to think about the other side of shaping our children into our desired mold/shape/goal for them.

In her article, the above stated blogger reminds us parents that we can sometimes carry this a bit too far. We must remember that yes, we are the parents, but it eventually comes down to the child deciding for him/herself what s/he will do and be. We can spend too much time shaping our children into what we want them to be, what we think they "should" be. We as parents must be careful not to get so caught up in our own vision for our children that we lose sight of their vision for themself. A plant will only be beautiful if it blooms and grows. We must caution ourselves against the risk of losing our children to the dream we have for them to become.
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Sunday, April 27, 2008

Topiary

TOPIARY -- The art of clipping and training woody plants to form geometric shapes or intricate patterns. Box and Myrtle are suitable types.

As we strolled through Epcot's Flower and Garden Festival last week, I noticed many of the topiaries around the park. They were beautifully designed and sculpted. I have seen topiaries before, but never thought of them in the sense of children.

Raising kids can be quite a bit like designing a topiary. You have this vision of a beautifully sculpted finished project. You spend time creating and shaping this work, hoping that the result will be what you see in your mind's eye.
I am a lot like this with my children. I have certain ideals in my own mind of what their finished product could, even should, look like. I believe it is right and good for a parent to shape and mold his/her children into the most beautiful work of art imagined. I know that it must take a lot of time, patience, skill and tender care to mold the topiary into the desired shape. The same can be said of our children. If we invest in the time, patience and tender care, we too can behold a beautifully sculpted being when our work is done.
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Monday, April 07, 2008

Eye

Eye-An undeveloped bud growth which will ultimately produce new growth.

It seems that when we are presented with our children as a new bundle of joy, we envision all the "eyes" in their lives. They are certainly filled with unrealized buds of potential growth. As our kids personality and strengths begin to emerge, we are better able to recognize the areas in which these buds will blossom and grow.

As parents, it is up to us to recognize the potential growth our kids exhibit and help them to reach their fullest ability in growing these buds of development. We can help to encourage our kids in their areas of greatest strength. We can provide opportunities for them to continue to blossom in these areas.

Every child has some area in which there is new growth just waiting to burst forth and blossom into new beauty. It is up to us to keep our eyes open to behold the eyes of growth waiting to bud in their lives.
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Sunday, March 30, 2008

Erosion

Erosion --The wearing away, washing away, or removal of soil by wind, water or man.

Lately it seems that erosion has taken place in my son's life. He is doing pretty well in all the things he is involved in, but he is completely drained. It seems as if all the activities of his life are slowly causing some erosion in his life. Although these are good activities, ones that he has chosen to be involved in, there sometimes comes a point where we have to step in and make him take a break.

As with plants, kids need the grounding that the surrounding soil provides for proper growth. When they begin to get worn down, resting and rebuilding that soil bed may be all it takes to replenish the nourishment that is needed for a more healthy lifestyle and proper growth.

Anything in life can cause the erosion that saps a child's energy, and in turn, level of growth. From school, sports, church, friends, home life and anything else the child is involved in, many demands are placed on him/her. Sometimes these demands even come from within the child. All of these demands slowly erode the area in which the child is rooted. It seems when these times come, it is in the best interest of our child and his/her growth to step back and help to re-evaluate all the s/he is involved in and how to best maintain the proper soil level needed. It may be a day off from a particular acitivity or perhaps even dropping one completely. It may be an earlier bedtime or a little down time in the evening is all our kid needs to help maintain the balance that can so easily be eroded by outside forces.
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Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Pesticide

Pesticide-A chemical used to kill pests, especially insects.

My blog friend sire has seemingly stumbled upon this little gardening experiment of a blog I’ve got going. He asked in my last post if I had done anything on "pesticide". I left a link to a post I’d done on pests. In that post, I sort of left off at "pesticide", leaving that up to each family and each situation.

I do believe that there are many different forms of "pest control" that parents can and should utilize. I do not think that any one form will work for every child at every age in every situation. I like to try to stay creative and vary my ways of controlling the pests that can invade our children’s lives. It seems that as they grow, the best forms of pesticide in their lives also change. Sitting in "time out" is not going to do much for our 15 year old (although grounding is really a form of extended time out, I suppose.)

Though there are times when I may consider just wringing the necks of my children and the pests that invade their lives, it is not always feasible, nor would it really serve any good purpose! I recently left a comment on a cyber-friend’s blog (who claims to be better than supernanny!) that I feel like prevention is always the best medicine.

Foreseeing a problem and set up ways and guidelines to prevent the pests from ever entering in the first place seems to be the smartest and easiest pesticide to implement. For my young kids and nephews, I use creative pesticides like sitting in chair position against a wall, holding a large dictionary in outstretched arms, groundings, mouth washings, sentences, and "over-correcting". But these do not truly seem to be pesticides, as I do not think they will ultimately change a child’s heart, even if they do change a behavior.

It occurs to me that the ultimate pesticide is within the child himself. It starts while they are very young and goes on into adulthood. It is up to the parent to instill values and integrity in the child. They must teach and inspire self-discipline in the child. When the child begins to be devoured by pests, it will eventually be up to him to remove them himself. It will take years of loving, patient practice and internalizing for this to truly take effect. As for me, the verdict is still out. But I am holding onto the key ultimate pest control as being self-discipline.
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Monday, February 11, 2008

pricking out

PRICKING OUT -- The moving of seedlings from the tray or pot in which they were sown to other receptacles where they can be spaced out individually.

I certainly feel that this is the place we are at with our kids right now. Of course, I always desire for my kids to be individuals, but I feel like we have made a move with our son, placing him out into another receptacle for more individual growth. Having grown up homeschooled, he transitioned this year into public school. It has defiinitely brought about a different type of growth-mostly good.

I know that all children need to have their space to grow in their individual ways. I think it is important to their development as a useful and whole person. I think the bible teaches this in Proverbs where it says "Train up a child in the way he should go..." This means that each child has a different way of training that is more effective for him/her. I have found that with my own children-what works for one may not necessarily work for the other.

Keeping in mind our children's individuality is important in the training and directing of their lives. Allowing others to have influence on our children can also help to stimulate growth at the right times. The individual path of our child as well as the influence of other training grounds can help to promote a healthy, stable path to adulthood.
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