Vulgaris/Vulgare Botanical
As parents we naturally want the best for our kids. Sometimes we catch ourselves wishing our kids were the best. There seems to be times when our kids just want to “blend in” or be one of the “regular guys” or “average girls”. Kids, especially teens, want to be sure that they are not too different from the peers with whom they identify. They like the familiarity of being part of the group. Some times even extraordinary kids want to do and be something common or ordinary.
As the parent watching this, it can be hard to find the balance or defining line to keep our kids propelled in the direction we think they need to go to rise above the crowd and allowing them space to just “be”. It might do us some good to step back from time to time and allow our child to be just a regular kid.
The pressure kids feel today in having to reach extraordinary status in some area of performance is astounding. They need some room to breath and to know that it is ok to be a “regular Joe” in some aspects. There is no way that anyone can be “on top” all the time. It is healthy to know that it is ok to be in the middle of the pack sometimes. It can even add to the enjoyment of the activity for sheer pleasure rather than having to “perform”.
