what? when?
When thinking about what to plant in the garden of our children’s hearts, and when, it can be confusing. I think the child himself is a good indicator of when the soil of his/her heart is ready for certain ideas and lessons. This is often communicated by questions the child asks and behaviors s/he exhibits. I also think that being in different situations and around lots of different people brings up “teachable moments” that allow us to plant new (or reinforce old) ideas, values, and things to think about and grow on. These times are perfect for communicating ideas and lessons for our child to grow with. Though we have no gardening book to tell us just what to plant and when to plant it in our children, there are general guidelines to watch for. And knowing our children and listening to what they are asking is a big help to us as parents in knowing what to plant in their hearts and minds and when it is the “right” time to do so.
Listening…now there’s a thing some busy parents forget to do.
Have a Merry Christmas, Silken,
Malcolm
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yes, it is hard sometimes. we often don’t hear exactly what it is our kids are telling us! I also like to look for moments to bring up things to talk about as well. not to force the issue, but to take advantage of windows of opportunity.
thank you and I hope you have a great christmas as well!!