Tuesday, March 24, 2009

watering

watering-”The amount of water you give the plants in your garden is so crucial to their healthy growth. Watering too much or too little can harm your plants, and some of the harm may be irreversible.” —taken from the safer brand website

While reading about watering plants, I was hit by how similar it is to raising children. The safer brand website (linked above) gives some good advice about when to water plants. Gardeners are advised that a few minutes of surface watering are not enough. Plants must be watered in such a fashion that the water seeps to the roots. This is obvious in our children’s lives as well.

Just instructing them on the surface level rarely works, at least not long term. For them to internalize something, to take it to root in their life, they must have proper instruction that reaches down deep. When they are young, this is needed more often, as with newly planted plants. As they establish however, watering plants once a week is sufficient. We can see the parallel in our children. As they grow, they do not need the constant reminders they needed when they were younger. However, as with plants, over-watering can also cause damage and stunted growth.

I have found this to be true in both experiences-in gardening and in raising my kids. I definitely have a tendency to over-water. It is recommended that once plants are established, watering in the morning  or evening is best. This is to prevent the heat of the day from causing evaporation. I can see how this fits into our routine nicely. After a long day in the heat of life, coming together as a family is refreshing. But only when I don’t tend to drown them with my over-watering techniques. As with plants, allowing them to sit too long in too much water will only cause fungus to germinate and thrive.

Perhaps beginning and ending the day with quietness and refreshing words would be an added help in allowing our children to grow into the healthy plants they are destined to be.

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Thursday, January 29, 2009

Sport

SPORT — A plant which shows a marked and inheritable change from its parent; a mutation.

Often parents want and expect their children to be “just like them” in almost every way. But a child is a separate person, one who will make his/her own choices about everything in life, including how much s/he wants to imitate his/her parents.

We recently asked our kids what makes kids choose to be like their parents or not to be like their parents. Basically, they said that it is up to the individual child. If they value what the parent values, they will likely want to be the same. Otherwise, they will reject the ideal and choose to live in a different way.

This has recently been illustrated well by Shelly and Merry . Our kids are their own people and will choose to live their own way, whether that means rejecting things like meatballs or racism, it is ultimately up to them to decide how to live out their own ideals and values.

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